Monthly Archives: October 2017

The Age of Distraction and what to do about it

Simon Rae

Over the past few weeks Ben and I have been talking about social media and how we utilise it while still maintaining a slow(er) paced life.

We spoke about Instagram, Twitter and Facebook and finished last Monday’s episode with a challenge – to delete social media apps of our phones for the next month. I know there were a few people who really weren’t down with that idea, which is totally understandable (it can be annoying and inconvenient, for sure) but today’s episode might give you some additional food for thought.

We had planned to wrap up the social media series last week and move on to another topic, but a couple of weeks ago I read an article on The Guardian that was too fascinating, and perhaps a little too much like the dystopian fiction I love, to ignore. So we thought we’d spend today’s episode examining the article and the ideas it presents, because it’s a very timely conversation.

The article opens with a conversation between the journalist and a handful of Silicon Valley engineers and developers, who are among the small but growing number of tech employees who no longer use the platforms they helped create. For some, it’s purely the distraction and time impacts of these addictive platforms, but for others it goes deeper. The article examines the ways in which these platforms have been designed to maximise addictability, and the impact that’s having on our behaviour. It was this point that really made me mad, and gave me the motivation to delete the apps and completely reconsider the way I use them.

Ben and I also talk about the specific tools we’ve started using since reading the article, including website and app blockers, as well as the mindset shifts we’ve made that seems to have made these changes easier than they’ve been before.

If you haven’t had a chance to read the article I’ve linked to it below and definitely recommend you take the time to have a read this week. You may just find yourself a little pissed off, like me, and use that anger to make some long-term changes.

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Head over to iTunes to subscribe to the show and play the episode.


Or you can listen to the show directly, simply by hitting the Play button above. Enjoy!

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Things to Check Out After Today’s Episode:

  • ‘Our minds can be hijacked’ by Paul Lewis, The Guardian
  • Stay Focusd – the website restricting extension for Chrome – I use this to keep non-work social media time to 10 minutes a day
  • Freedom – the app and website blocking app that stops you from being able to access apps and specific websites on your phone (I use this in conjunction with Stay Focusd so there’s fewer opportunities to find work arounds)
  • SLOW, my brand new book is now available in Australia and New Zealand! (US and Canada, Spring 2018) Head over here for details.
  • Destination Simple is now available in North America! Grab a copy here.

Keep Listening:

Support the Show:

You may have heard that we recently hit 3 million (!!) downloads of The Slow Home Podcast! Not only does that fact blow my mind, it’s also thanks to your lovely self and the community of people who listen to the show every week, send in your questions and offer your feedback. I’m so grateful you’re here and part of this, and for anyone who has supported the show in any way over the past year – thank you so much.

If you do love the show and would like to show your support by becoming a patron, head over here to make a small monthly donation (as little as $1 a month) and know that any amount makes a huge difference to us being able to cover costs.

Most importantly, thanks for being here!

 

Slow Living and Social Media: Facebook

Adam Jang

Ah, Facebook. The social media platform I have the biggest love/hate relationship with of all. I love it because it affords us a way of communicating with our people and a relatively simple way of building a community of rad folk like you.

But UGH. I really really dislike using it personally, and post to my private, non-work profile pretty infrequently. It just grates on me, and the hours of time I’ve wasted over the years of looking at holiday photos of people I went to high school with just makes me a bit mad, you know?

It’s undeniable that I do use it frequently for work, though, which means I need to monitor my use of it pretty closely so that I don’t tip in to the mindless scrolling mode that made me dislike Facebook in the first place. So in today’s episode Ben and I discuss the different measures we’ve put in place over the past couple of years to ensure Facebook stays in its box and doesn’t impose on parts of work or life that it doesn’t need to.

Ben’s only just gotten back on to Facebook after many years away, solely to assist me in the running of the Slow Your Home page and the online retreat group. He has zero friends (me included) and has no problem in keeping it at arm’s length and keeping his personal life off the internet.

A few years ago I made the decision to no longer accept friend requests from people I didn’t know personally, and that, paired with our decision to keep our kids and personal lives off Facebook means that it’s largely not a privacy issue any more. It’s just a time issue. So I’ve also been happily reducing the number of people I follow, and feel completely free to unfriend or mute those who’s posts are troubling. We might be on these social media platforms because we feel like it’s a requirement (it’s not, but I get it) but that’s not to say we don’t have a certain level of power over what gets in front of our faces when we log on.

When it comes to work, Facebook is by far the biggest consideration for us. It’s where the majority of our audience spends time, so it’s important that we show up. The key is doing so in a way that works for us too. In order to maintain control on our time, over the past couple of years I’ve been instigating the following strategies. Like anything we’re not perfect at it (far from it actually) but generally they allow us to strike a balance between being available and being offline:

  • schedule new podcast posts ahead of time
  • schedule occasional articles from other sites 
  • I’ve created an auto-response for anyone who writes to us on Facebook, explaining that we can’t always reply to every message
  • I try to log in at least once a day and respond to as many as I can but it doesn’t always happen.

I believe we’re all still trying to find a way of balancing social media and mindful living, but what I’ve learnt over the last couple of years is that doing things just because we’re told they’re the “right thing to do” isn’t a good enough reason to stress ourselves out with constant connection. Like anything, the more mindful and intentional we are about our choices and actions the more likely we’ll be to strike a balance that works for us personally.

How do you use Facebook? Do you find it overwhelming or comforting? Do you have any boundaries on it, or dip in and out as needed?

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Head over to iTunes to subscribe to the show and play the episode.


Or you can listen to the show directly, simply by hitting the Play button above. Enjoy!

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Things to Check Out After Today’s Episode:

  • If you’re not already following Slow Your Home on Facebook you can find us here.
  • SLOW, my brand new book is now available in Australia and New Zealand! (US and Canada, Spring 2018) Head over here for details.
  • Destination Simple is now available in North America! Grab a copy here.

Keep Listening:

Support the Show:

You may have heard that we recently hit 3 million (!!) downloads of The Slow Home Podcast! Not only does that fact blow my mind, it’s also thanks to your lovely self and the community of people who listen to the show every week, send in your questions and offer your feedback. I’m so grateful you’re here and part of this, and for anyone who has supported the show in any way over the past year – thank you so much.

If you do love the show and would like to show your support by becoming a patron, head over here to make a small monthly donation (as little as $1 a month) and know that any amount makes a huge difference to us being able to cover costs.

Most importantly, thanks for being here!

 

Community with Dr Monty Badami

Slava Bowman

Ben and I are always on the look-out for fascinating people to chat with for the poggie, and today’s guest is no exception. In fact, I think he’s probably got one of the most varied careers of anyone we’ve spoken with so far.

He is an:

  • Anthropolgist
  • Civil Marriage Celebrant
  • Justice of the Peace
  • Jazz Singer
  • English Teacher
  • Tai Chi Instructor
  • Youth Worker
  • Bouncer…
  • and is training to become an officer in the Australia Reserve!

To say that Dr Sumant Badami (Dr Monty as he is known to most) leads a busy life is an understatement. Ben first met Monty at Dr Arne Rubenstein’s leadership camp back in July, in fact this conversation is a great extension to Episode 91 when Ben spoke to Arne about Rights of Passage and the importance of strong role models in Western society.

In yet another Ben ‘takeover’ episode, Monty talks about the importance of community and what it means on a very fundamental level to be part of a community. Monty shares a beautiful story about his research travels in South India where he visited the Paniya, a marginalised indigenous ethnic group, who were slaves until quite recently and what that taught him about being accepted and valued in a community.

In a very articulate way, Monty challenges the concept of the ‘broken community’ in Western culture and what he believes we need to do to better connect with like-minded people (*hint: it’s pretty simple!)

This is an extremely enlightening conversation that is designed to spark conversation (and many more questions!) rather than provide the answers. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!

Also, if you enjoy the chat be sure to check out Monty’s new podcast over at “The meaning of…”

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Head over to iTunes to subscribe to the show and play the episode.


Or you can listen to the show directly, simply by hitting the Play button above. Enjoy!

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Things to Check Out After Today’s Episode:

Keep Listening:

Support the Show:

You may have heard that we recently hit 3 million (!!) downloads of The Slow Home Podcast! Not only does that fact blow my mind, it’s also thanks to your lovely self and the community of people who listen to the show every week, send in your questions and offer your feedback. I’m so grateful you’re here and part of this, and for anyone who has supported the show in any way over the past year – thank you so much.

If you do love the show and would like to show your support by becoming a patron, head over here to make a small monthly donation (as little as $1 a month) and know that any amount makes a huge difference to us being able to cover costs.

Most importantly, thanks for being here!

Slow Living and Social Media: Instagram

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This is the second episode in our social media series, and today we’re talking about Ben’s favourite social media platform – Instagram.

If you’ve listened to last Monday’s episode you know that we’re working through our three biggest social channels (Twitter, Instagram and Facebook) and how we make them work for in both our business and our personal lives while still living a slower-paced life. Undoubtedly, the combination of running an online business that utilises social media while also advocating a slower pace of life can feel pretty incongruous, so we wanted to talk about how we manage (or ignore) social media.

First up we talk about the expectation that when you have a business online, you’re always accessible, and that being mindful of social media use and setting boundaries around the amount of time spent online can feel like the opposite of all the business advice you read and hear. We’ve come to realisation, over time, that it’s OK to not do things by the book, when the book itself is the problem.

We also discuss the evolving strategy we’re using for social media now that our team is growing, and why we’ve decided to create a dedicated Instagram account for the poggie too. I discuss some of the strategies I use to manage my Instagram (while still being present in everyday life) and go in to detail on the following tactics:

  • rarely post in real-time
  • rarely post every day (my life isn’t that interesting!)
  • pre-planning and scheduling can help with the more business-centric posts
  • as fun as it is sometimes, I consider social media part of my job and try to keep it firmly in working hours

We also talk about one of the biggest criticisms of Instagram – the dreaded comparisonitis that we all fall prey to on occasion. For me, feeling free to unfollow anyone who’s account leaves me feeling drained or angry or less-than, has been a big freedom and I’d encourage you to do the same. Just because a profile is popular or related to the same topics we’re interested in doesn’t mean we need to wallow in the negative feelings that can arise from comparing ourselves. So feel free to find your own people – profiles who inspire or educate you, or, even better, make you laugh.

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Also a quick reminder about the Live Life Simply Online Retreat – a six-week program that brings together the wisdom and expertise of 13 mindfulness, simplicity and slow living experts into one blissful online space.

The line-up is incredible and we can’t wait to see you there! Head over to the retreat for all the details and to secure your place. Registrations close on October 22, 2017, and the retreat kicks off on October 23.

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Head over to iTunes to subscribe to the show and play the episode.


Or you can listen to the show directly, simply by hitting the Play button above. Enjoy!

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Things to Check Out After Today’s Episode:

Keep Listening:

Support the Show:

You may have heard that we recently hit 3 million (!!) downloads of The Slow Home Podcast! Not only does that fact blow my mind, it’s also thanks to your lovely self and the community of people who listen to the show every week, send in your questions and offer your feedback. I’m so grateful you’re here and part of this, and for anyone who has supported the show in any way over the past year – thank you so much.

If you do love the show and would like to show your support by becoming a patron, head over here to make a small monthly donation (as little as $1 a month) and know that any amount makes a huge difference to us being able to cover costs.

Most importantly, thanks for being here!

 

 

How to go zero waste (slowly) with Erin Rhoads

Keit Trysh

Last week, during our hostful episode, I tried to answer a very good and very common question: how do we deal with eco-anxiety? That is, the pressure or frustration we feel when even our best intentions to minimise waste and tread lightly on the earth are thwarted by an errant plastic bag or forgetting to ask for no straw.

Considering that I still very much struggle with this issue myself, I think Ben and I did a decent job of trying to alleviate the guilt, and hopefully went some way towards convincing you that we actually can’t ever do these things perfectly. And what’s more, that the second we realise and accept this, the more ease and peace we tend to allow ourselves.

That’s not to say I wasn’t going to revisit the question of eco-anxiety with today’s guest, however, because she’s just about the most qualified person I could think of to give us permission to cool our jets and accept that sometimes our best won’t be gold standard, and that’s OK.

Erin Rhoads is the zero-waste warrior behind The Rogue Ginger – a website that has both the coolest name and the most accessible and practical tips on living a zero-waste (or low-waste) life. I was so happy to sit down and chat with Erin, and hope that our conversation frees you up to begin making changes without the crippling fear of not being good enough. The reality is that any change is better than none and I love how encouraging Erin is in getting each of us to take one step at a time towards less waste, rather than trying to run the entire marathon straight away.

We go back to the moment (the movie, actually) that changed Erin from a mindless consumer to conscious advocate and why her journey towards zero waste began with very small and gradual changes too.

Erin answers a few questions that I’m consistently asked about when it comes to living plastic-free, specifically:

  • How can we avoid plastic wrapping when buying cheese?
  • Is there an alternative for lunch wraps that doesn’t require us to cook our own?
  • How can we open up the low-waste conversation with suppliers, family and friends without making people feel judged?

We also talk about the one simple change you can make today – regardless of where you are in your journey towards living plastic-free, as well as offering an encouragement to act rather than get angry.

It’s a conversation full of practical tips and encouragement, and I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

BONUS: Erin is also part of the upcoming Live Life Simply Online Retreat and will be taking us through the essentials of zero-waste living. Registration is open now so be sure to secure your place before October 22, 2017. The retreat opens its doors on October 23 and we can’t wait to have you!

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Head over to iTunes to subscribe to the show and play the episode.


Or you can listen to the show directly, simply by hitting the Play button above. Enjoy!

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Things to Check Out After Today’s Episode:

Keep Listening:

Support the Show:

You may have heard that we recently hit 3 million (!!) downloads of The Slow Home Podcast! Not only does that fact blow my mind, it’s also thanks to your lovely self and the community of people who listen to the show every week, send in your questions and offer your feedback. I’m so grateful you’re here and part of this, and for anyone who has supported the show in any way over the past year – thank you so much.

If you do love the show and would like to show your support by becoming a patron, head over here to make a small monthly donation (as little as $1 a month) and know that any amount makes a huge difference to us being able to cover costs.

Most importantly, thanks for being here!