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Sunday funday, managing emails and our favourite beers

Sunday funday, managing emails and our favourite beers - Episode 155 of The Slow Home Podcast

It’s hostful time again and the questions we answer today are, as always, complete crackers. It’s such a fun thing to do and I find myself looking forward to it every month. Because not only do I get an insight into what you’re struggling with or questioning at the moment, but it also gives Ben and I the chance to talk about things in a way we may otherwise not have.

I’ve learnt a lot from these hostful poggies and I just wanted to say thank you to you for being here, asking questions, joining in, letting us know what you need. It’s a privilege and I’m so glad for it.

On to the questions we answer this week:

  • Do you have any tips on managing email and the impact it’s having on my life, both personal and professional?
  • How can I deal with kids clothes? We’re constantly receiving hand-me-downs and the sheer volume is making things difficult. Any tips on keeping it manageable?
  • Has there ever been a point in the beginning of your journey where you felt stuck? Perhaps lost momentum? I’m feeling a little frustrated at the moment, but I’m a long way away from where I’ve come. What can I do to move past this?
  • Do you meal plan for lunches and breakfasts as well as dinners? How does this work?
  • What’s your favorite choice of beer?!
  • And what do you like to throw on the grill?!
  • I’m trying to slow things down here and implement “Sunday Fun days” at my house. Would love to hear your take on slow, fun days at home.

As you can see, a varied offering of questions and lots of fun to answer.

Also, as promised, here is my recipe for sweet potato and black bean patties (excuse the vagueness of the measurements, I’m not really a measurement kind of cook!)

INGREDIENTS:

  • 1 400g tin black beans, rinsed
  • 2-3 handfuls grated sweet potato (about half a medium one)
  • 1 small brown onion, diced finely
  • 1 egg or a flaxseed/chia egg if you’re going plant-based
  • plain flour or quinoa flour to bind
  • healthy sprinkle of coriander seeds, crushed
  • healthy sprinkle of cumin, crushed 
  • salt and pepper
  • sprinkle of chilli powder if desired

HOW TO:

  1. Place the beans into a bowl and using your hands, squeeze them roughly and begin to break them down.
  2. Add the sweet potato and continue to use your hands to mix/squeeze.
  3. Add the egg/flax egg, spices and maybe a couple of tablespoons of flour. Use hands to mix well and bring the mixture together. Add more flour or water as needed.
  4. Once the consistency is sticky and will hold its shape once rolled into a patty, scoop up the mixture in half-handfuls and roll into a ball. Flatten gently and place into fridge for at least 30 mins.
  5. You can cook the patties on the BBQ (they are quite dense so will take at least 30 mins on a low-med heat to cook. OR you can heat up coconut oil in a thick-walled roasting tray and place the patties in to a moderate-hot oven, turning after about 20 minutes. These taste best when they’re a little crispy, a little charred, so be sure to give them time.
  6. These are delicious in a veggie burger situation or an abundance bowl. If you’ve got leftovers you can simply stack them on parchment paper or reusable beeswax wraps, pop them in a glass container and freeze for another time.

Enjoy the poggie, and let me know if you try these bad boys out (they’re pretty delicious!) or if you have a smoked meat recommendation for Ben.

And thanks again to today’s sponsor Pocketbook – the personal finance app that takes the complexity out of budgeting and tracking your money. To download the free Pocketbook app and take control of your finances today, head to getpocketbook.com/slowhome and get all the details. 

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Your Why: Values

Your Why: Values

Last week Ben and I both went fairly deep in to the idea of legacy. I spoke about my eulogy and Ben spoke about the things that drive him in a big picture, high level way. We spoke about the kind of life we want to live in order for those legacies to come to fruition, and the jarring realisation that we often miss the mark.

Previously I’ve always left any discussion of my Why here – at the eulogy level. And while it’s so important to have that 10,000-foot view of the life we’re creating, it doesn’t really allow for much guidance in the granular, everyday decisions we’re faced with. How can something as grand and life-spanning as a eulogy help us to decide how to spend a weekend? Or whether to share a photo on social media?

There was always a certain level of specificity missing, and it wasn’t until we drilled down even further than the eulogy level and discovered the notion of values that it became clear. In today’s episode we look at values – what they are, what ours are, and how we use them in addition to our Why to determine our choices and actions on the day to day level.

According to the dictionary, values are:

“Principles or standards of behaviour,” and, “One’s judgement of what is important in life.”

As a definition in this context, I think the combination of these two really nails it. Not only do we need to know what we’re OK with in terms of our own behaviour, but also what is important to us in life. And neither of these things will become clear without doing some significant head-work (like that of the past two weeks) and digging in to gain some more clarity into what that actually looks like in daily life.

Today I pick apart my eulogy from last week and extract three key values on which I can essentially make any decision, and Ben does the same with his. It takes us from a nebulous idea of eulogy to one of values and it’s been so incredibly valuable to us as we navigate a tricky time.

My three core values are:

  • compassion
  • adventure
  • responsibility

And in this poggie I look at how those three values really do apply to everything I hold dear, and next week we look at how I use them as a framework on which to base decisions and take action.

This week’s task revolves around the work you may have already done as we’ve worked through this idea of Why. Go back to your first mind map, or even your legacy exercise from last week and simply start highlighting words that represent a value of yours. You’re looking for the attributes or principles rather than the specific actions. Then sit with these words for a while and let yourself consider the values they represent:

  • Are they yours?
  • Do they ring true?
  • Do they feel right in your gut even if you’re not currently living with them at the centre?

Write them down on a piece of paper and keep it somewhere close. Then, just let it roll around in your head and your heart for a while. You’re getting there!

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You may have heard that we recently hit 2 million (!!) downloads of The Slow Home Podcast! Not only does that fact blow my mind, it’s also thanks to your lovely self and the community of people who listen to the show every week, send in your questions and offer your feedback. I’m so grateful you’re here and part of this, and for anyone who has supported the show in any way over the past year – thank you so much.

If you do love the show and would like to show your support by becoming a patron, head over here to make a small monthly donation (as little as $1 a month) and know that any amount makes a huge difference to us being able to cover costs.

Most importantly, thanks for being here!

The Slow WIP (aka a Work In Progress podcast)

The Slow WIP - Episode 153 of The Slow Home Podcast

When is a hostful not actually a hostful? When it’s a WIP! (Otherwise known as a Work In Progress). 

A few weeks ago I wrote a post over on The Art of Simple, outlining mine and Ben’s weekly WIP. I was a little worried that it would be boring, but it turns out this is an idea that resonated with lots of readers so I thought it would be a good opportunity for Ben and I to look at another really practical thing we’ve implemented over the past year and a half of self-employment. Essentially it allows us to work together, be productive and actually like each other at the end of (almost) every day. 

We look at the structure of our WIP, why they work and how we use them to give shape and direction to the rest of our week, as well as how we each manage when unexpected things pop up.

Interestingly, this also leads us in to a wider conversation around the issue of living a less-than-slow life right now, and how we find balance between building a business and maintaining a certain level of slow-ness in our home home and family life. It’s not an easy one to strike and there are a few times in today’s poggie where I admit to the toll it takes when advocating for slow while not being able to live it. But on the flipside, I also talk about how I’ve turned that from a guilt-ridden experience to one of learning and gaining a deeper understanding of what the mindset of slow living looks like – even when it’s not slow-paced. 

Ben and I also talk about some of the changes we’re in the midst of making in our work and how we think it’s going to impact the podcast and the ways in which we can help you live a slower, simpler life yourself. 

There’s plenty of honesty in this poggie, that’s for sure! 

Today’s sponsor is Pocketbook – the personal finance app that takes the complexity out of budgeting and tracking your money. To download the free Pocketbook app and take control of your finances today, head to getpocketbook.com/slowhome and get all the details. 

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Your Why: Legacy

Your Why: Legacy

Last Monday we spoke about the idea of developing your Why – specifically, what it is and why it’s important. Today we’re continuing that same conversation, focusing on how we can uncover our Why.

I’ve spoken about this on the podcast before, but it was actually a eulogy writing exercise that helped me uncover my personal Why. So in this episode I read that eulogy out, cry a little, and talk about the impact it’s had on the years since. Not only has it helped me paint a picture of what a life well-lived looked like (to me) but it’s also helped:

  • deliver perspective
  • make clear the things worth worrying about (and the things that aren’t)
  • simplify decision-making
  • keep focus on my choices and the life I’m heading towards by making them

In a nutshell, my eulogy is about what I want to see at the end of my life. The things people remember about me, the work I’ve done, the way I’ve loved, the way I’ve lived… And when I first wrote it I realised that if I kept living my life like I was, my eulogy would sound a lot different, and not in a good way.

Ben talks about his Why in terms of the idea of legacy rather than eulogy, and I think it’s really helpful to see that it doesn’t need to be a big heavy exercise, but rather one of intention and mindfulness.

We both share the big picture things that drive us, and the realisation that these are going to change over the years, as well as some questions for you to ask of yourself as you work through the process of uncovering your personal Why.

  • What do I want to leave behind?
  • What don’t I want to leave behind?
  • What would my day to day life look like it I worked towards that?

And I’d encourage you to think on these questions over the next few days, jotting down some of the answers or revisiting the mind map from last week, and start creating a picture of this Why – whether you decide to write a eulogy or a legacy, or something else that works for you.

In the meantime, have a wonderful week!

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You may have heard that we recently hit 2 million (!!) downloads of The Slow Home Podcast! Not only does that fact blow my mind, it’s also thanks to your lovely self and the community of people who listen to the show every week, send in your questions and offer your feedback. I’m so grateful you’re here and part of this, and for anyone who has supported the show in any way over the past year – thank you so much.

If you do love the show and would like to show your support by becoming a patron, head over here to make a small monthly donation (as little as $1 a month) and know that any amount makes a huge difference to us being able to cover costs.

Most importantly, thanks for being here!

The Art of Frugal Hedonism with Annie Raser-Rowland

The Art of Frugal Hedonism with Annie Raser-Rowland - Episode 151 of The Slow Home Podcast

[HELLO! Just a quick note to let you know that we’ve fixed the audio issues in today’s episode. If you have any trouble getting the new version to upload, you can try refreshing your feed or unsubscribing/resubscribing in your podcast app. Enjoy the poggie!]

You know those conversations that change things? The ones that act as a delineation point? The ones you look back on and realise that, as a result of having them, your worldview is different? Ben and I had one of those a couple of weeks ago when we sat down to chat with the utterly wonderful Annie Raser-Rowland.

Annie was actually recommended to us as a poggie guest in light of The Art of Frugal Hedonism – the book she co-authored with Adam Grubb – and I’m so grateful to have had the chance to chat with her about life and pleasure and scarcity and ego and many other things.

One of the things I noticed about Annie almost straight away was the way she uses words. They have weight and meaning and feeling to them, and I sat across from her for an hour with an enormous, goofy grin on my face and simply listened to her. It feels like the way Annie speaks is very similar to the way she moves through life. Things are considered, but they’re also felt. Life is experienced, explored, meaningful, soaked up and revelled in.

And that’s what I love about this notion of frugal hedonism. There are many practical ways to start adopting it in to your life, and Annie and I cover some of those in our chat, but even more than that it’s about experiencing things, paying attention, giving yourself space and time to spend afternoons immersed in cloud-watching or 10 minutes eating an apple in the sun. It’s about deciding what’s important to us and putting those things at the centre, even if that means we give up on lots of other things along the way.

We also talk about envy and comparisons, and the role these have in the constant striving to keep up, the impact of advertising and social conditioning (and social media for that matter!) on our desire to fit in, and where Annie’s drive to simplify stems from.

In short, this is such an inspiring conversation that I hope you enjoy as much as we did.

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Support the Show:

You may have heard that we recently hit 2 million (!!) downloads of The Slow Home Podcast! Not only does that fact blow my mind, it’s also thanks to your lovely self and the community of people who listen to the show every week, send in your questions and offer your feedback. I’m so grateful you’re here and part of this, and for anyone who has supported the show in any way over the past year – thank you so much.

If you do love the show and would like to show your support by becoming a patron, head over here to make a small monthly donation (as little as $1 a month) and know that any amount makes a huge difference to us being able to cover costs.

Most importantly, thanks for being here!