Category Archives: People

How can you get your family on board with a slower life? How do we engage with our community and make a difference in the world? How can we better spend our time with family and friends? And why does it matter?

At home in the world with Tsh Oxenreider

Tsh Oxenreider on being at home in the world - Episode 163 of The Slow Home Podcast

The last time I spoke with Tsh Oxenreider, she and her family had just returned to the States after a year-long, round-the-world adventure, and I was completely taken with the idea of long-term family travel. I’ve since spent many (many) hours thinking about the logistics of a big adventure and the idea excites me a lot.

In the 18 months since she was last on the show, Tsh has turned her family’s adventure in to a beautiful new book called ‘At Home in the World’ where she talks about the paradox of being a wandering homebody – someone who feels at home on the road but also yearns for the deep roots of community.

In today’s episode Tsh and I talk about that tension, and the freedom she discovered when she embraced both sides of her personality – the homebody and the wanderer – and why she is now happy to be deep in a home phase of life as she and her husband renovate an old house in a small Texas town.

We also talk about community and what it means to Tsh. Her definition, “A place where we know, and are known,” leads us in to the topic of finding community in a new place. How can you cultivate community in a place you’re new to? How can you feel part of a community if you’re only going to be there for a few weeks?

Both of us are big fans of slow travel so we also discuss different ways we each find that thread of community in a place, even if we’re only staying for a short while. I love visiting libraries and markets, doing very normal things like grocery shopping, as they all help tie us more closely to the heart of a place than sticking to the bucket-list items alone.

I also ask Tsh one of the most common questions I receive but am unable to answer: how to encourage older kids (tweens and teens, specifically) to embrace a simpler way of life. Social media makes the issue of ‘fitting in’ even more pressured for today’s kids, and with that often comes more stuff, more wants, more extracurricular activities, more stress… Tsh’s eldest daughter is now 12, so it was fascinating and very helpful to get her views on how best to encourage simplicity in kids that age, while also accepting that there will be tension there sometimes.

Such a great, wide-ranging conversation that left me both yearning for adventure and completely content with my life at home. Enjoy!   

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You may have heard that we recently hit 2 million (!!) downloads of The Slow Home Podcast! Not only does that fact blow my mind, it’s also thanks to your lovely self and the community of people who listen to the show every week, send in your questions and offer your feedback. I’m so grateful you’re here and part of this, and for anyone who has supported the show in any way over the past year – thank you so much.

If you do love the show and would like to show your support by becoming a patron, head over here to make a small monthly donation (as little as $1 a month) and know that any amount makes a huge difference to us being able to cover costs.

Most importantly, thanks for being here!

Presence over perfection with Dr Justin Coulson

Presence over perfection with Dr Justin Coulson - Episode 143 of The Slow Home Podcast

Dr Justin Coulson is one of Australia’s leading parenting experts – a father of six, a doctor of psychology and a passionate advocate for intentional relationships – and in today’s episode he and I sit down to discuss the importance of turning up for the people we love.

And while Justin is a parenting expert, he’s also a highly regarded psychologist and a voice of practical reason in all areas of relationships and in today’s episode he and I talk through a number of different ways we can turn up, be present and choose intention for the people we love – whether we’re a parent or not.

We start this conversation talking about the idea of slow living and how Justin, a self-professed ‘fast-paced’ person, fits in to a show centred on the idea of slow. As is often the case, the impression of slow living is one in which everything happens at a slow pace, or involves lots of meandering down time. But, as you probably know by now, it’s far more about intention than it is about speed. And because Justin is someone who talks about the importance of intention, I knew he was someone I wanted to talk to.

We chat about the impact intention has not only on parent-child relationships, but also the way we use technology, the way we allocate our time, and the way we choose our priorities. We also talk about the immense pressure we put on ourselves by trying to be everything to everyone, and how the resulting comparisons leave us exhausted and feeling like a failure.

I have a feeling there will be follow-up questions for Justin, so please feel free to leave them in the comments section below and hopefully I’ll get the chance to chat with Justin again in the near future.

Justin also has two super generous offers for listeners of the poggie, and you can see how to redeem them in the show notes below. In the meantime though, enjoy the show!

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Or you can listen to the show directly, simply by hitting the Play button above. Enjoy!

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Check out after listening:

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Support the Show:

You may have heard that we recently hit 1.8 million downloads of The Slow Home Podcast! Not only does that fact blow my mind, it’s also thanks to your lovely self and the community of people who listen to the show every week, send in your questions and offer your feedback. I’m so grateful you’re here and part of this, and for anyone who has supported the show in any way over the past year – thank you so much.

If you do love the show and would like to show your support by becoming a patron, head over here to make a small monthly donation (as little as $1 a month) and know that any amount makes a huge difference to us being able to cover costs.

Most importantly, thanks for being here!

Unsubscribe from the rat race with Paul Jarvis – The Slow Home Summer Series

Unsubscribe from the rat race with Paul Jarvis - The Slow Home Summer Series

WELCOME TO THE SLOW HOME SUMMER SERIES! BEN AND I ARE TAKING A BREAK OVER JANUARY, SO WE’RE WE REVISITING SOME OF THE BEST EPISODES OF 2016.

I’ve been reading Paul Jarvis’ Sunday Dispatches and listening to his Invisible Office Hours podcast for a long time. So long, in fact, I felt like I knew him before I’d ever spoken a word in conversation! So it was beyond a delight to sit and chat with him, and even more delightful to realise he is exactly the same in conversation as in his writing.

We spend quite a bit of time talking about the importance of being our true self online, and the BIG difference between that and sharing things we haven’t actually processed yet. Paul has written a lot about comparison and the myth that everyone else is living more interesting, photogenic lives that us, so we dive in to that too. I’ve linked to a fantastic post of his below that I would highly recommend you read if you find yourself playing the comparison game too often.

(Actually, I’ve linked to a handful of my favourite articles from Paul. Do yourself a kindness and take a read over the weekend.)

Paul also talks about his lack of routine, why busy-ness is a crutch we lean on to avoid feeling our feelings, and what he’s watching on TV these days.

Enjoy!

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If you love the show and want to support it by continuing to subscribe, listen, share with friends/family or leave a review on iTunes, that’s awesome too!

Most important of all, thanks for being here!

Birthday Parties and the Zombie Apocalypse

Birthday Parties and Zombie Gardening - Episode 108 of The Slow Home Podcast
(Courtesy AMC / FOX)

We’re in the thick of school holidays right now, which, if I’m being honest, has meant a significant readjustment since Ben and I began working together this year. On occasion we really feel the tension between living, working, parenting and adulting in the one place, and school holidays can be one of those times.

That’s not to say it’s a bad tension, but definitely a new thing we’ve had to learn to navigate since that super exciting conversation on New Years Day this year, and you’ll hear us navigating it a little today with the kid-centric noise ramping up in the background of today’s poggie! 

This is another hostful episode and, boy oh boy, did you ask some cracking good questions! We weren’t able to get through them all, but rest assured we will work on answering them in next month’s Q & A show, as well as any others you might want to ask over on Facebook or in the comments below.

Here are some of the questions we tackle in today’s host-only affair:

  • I’m a 20 year old university student and a big advocate of slow living, but I feel like a lot of the content out there is targeted towards a different age group. What advice would you give to your 20 year old selves regarding slow living and what would you have done differently at that age if you’d been introduced to this idea sooner?
  • Can you talk about school holidays and your thoughts on structured activities for your kids versus encouraging them to find their own fun?
  • How do you navigate birthday parties? With sport friends, school friends, parent friends with their kids …. it can turn into a party every weekend! Kids love parties and being invited so much so that I think saying a flat out ‘no’ is almost cruel. And if you go and celebrate one child’s birthday, then isn’t it nasty to say no to another child? I’d also love to hear your thoughts on actually hosting a party and the gifts and the lolly bags etc.
  • I am working from home and find myself distracted by laundry and dishes…I’d love to hear details about how you get work done. Specifically, your daily rhythm, how you set boundaries around work/home management etc.
  • If the world were presented with a zombie apocalypse, do you think it would still be necessary to live a slow life? How well do you suppose you both might fare in that situation?

I told you they were great! To go from 20-year-old versions of ourselves, to navigating the zombie apocalypse and everything in between – well, that’s just a whole heap of fun.

Turns out I have some very real thoughts about birthday parties and zombies (not necessarily together) and Ben has some really excellent insights into how he breaks his work days in to chunks that allow him to get a lot of work done without getting overwhelmed or becoming distracted.

Enjoy today’s hosts-only show, and be sure to leave us a comment with your questions so we can answer it next month.

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Show Notes:

Keep Listening:

Support the Show:

Recently we passed 1.2 million downloads of The Slow Home Podcast! Not only does that fact blow my mind, it’s also thanks to your lovely self and the community of people who listen to the show every week, send in your questions and offer your feedback. I’m so grateful you’re here and part of this, and for anyone who has supported the show in any way over the past year – thank you.

If you do love the show and would like to show your support by becoming a patron, head over here to make a small monthly donation (as little as $1 a month) and know that any amount makes a huge difference to us being able to cover costs.

Most important of all, thanks for being here!

Random Acts of Kindness #4 – The Slow Home Experiment

Random Acts of Kindness #4

“You will never regret being kind.”

Turns out, not only is this an internet-friendly quote thrown around online a great deal, but it’s also actually true! This month’s random acts of kindness experiment has been both eye and heart-opening, and I’m so grateful we decided to try it.

We’ve still got almost a whole week to go, but as today is the last Monday of the month Ben and I wanted to sum up our experience and announce next month’s Slow Home Experiment, in the hope that some of you will want to join in again.

At the beginning of the month I was pretty shaken to realise I was nervous about our Random Acts of Kindness experiment. What did that say about me? What kind of person feels nervous to be kind? Well, as it turns out, most of us. At least before we’ve had a chance to practise, anyway.

Rationally, we know that being kind is a good thing. We hear about acts of kindness – sometimes on the news or social media, or as a nice thing someone did for someone else, or even being a recipient of that kindness ourselves – and we recognise how much impact it can have. But still I found myself worried about the reaction I’d get if I extended a hand in kindness this month.

Today Ben and I talk about the vulnerability of kindness, and the ease with which it has started to come the more we’ve practised. Both he and I have felt a big shift over the past week as we’ve really warmed into the idea of kindness as a lifestyle, rather than kindness as a once-off, and it’s in this every day connection, looking into the eyes of the person we’re speaking with, thanking someone and genuinely meaning it, that I uncovered the true heart of this experiment.

We also talk about some of our favourite acts of kindness and what we’re planning on doing this week, and as we move into October. Though I might need to find a new favourite random act of kindness, as my coffee shop expenses are slowly mounting!

As this is the last Monday show for September, it’s also time for us to reveal next month’s Slow Home Experiment…

In October we’re going back to my decluttering roots and… playing the Minimalists Game.

For those of you who may not have heard of The Minimalists Game it’s the creation of Joshua and Ryan of The Minimalists. Essentially, on Day 1 of the month, we declutter one item. Day 2, two items. Day 3, three items. And so on, until the end of the month. It starts out easily enough, but as the month progresses and we find ourselves decluttering 10, 15 or 20 items a day it’s sure to become more challenging! 

I was a little hesitant to do a decluttering experiment, but I know this is something a lot of you would like to join in on, and truth be told, I’m at the point where I’d welcome another opportunity to let go of some of the stuff that’s made its way in to our house over the past 6 months.

To join in, it’s super easy. On October 1, just let go of one item of clutter from your home. Day 2, two items, and so on. If you wanted to share your progress, feel free to join us over on Facebook or use #minsgame and #slowhomeexperiment wherever good hashtags are used. (That would be Twitter and Instagram!)

Over the next few weeks I’ll be sharing some of my favourite tips for decluttering and simplifying your home on the poggie, and if you have decluttering questions please feel free to leave a comment below and I’ll try my best to answer them over the course of the month.

In the meantime, enjoy the show, and choose kindness!

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Head over to iTunes to subscribe to the show and play the episode.

Or you can listen to the show directly, simply by hitting the Play button above. Enjoy!

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Show Notes:

Keep Listening:

Support the Show:

You may have heard that we recently hit 1.2 million downloads of The Slow Home Podcast! Not only does that fact blow my mind, it’s also thanks to your lovely self and the community of people who listen to the show every week, send in your questions and offer your feedback. I’m so grateful you’re here and part of this, and for anyone who has supported the show in any way over the past year – thank you so much.

If you do love the show and would like to show your support by becoming a patron, head over here to make a small monthly donation (as little as $1 a month) and know that any amount makes a huge difference to us being able to cover costs.

Most importantly, thanks for being here!