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Finding more time is about learning to say no, embracing the Joy of Missing Out and disconnecting to reconnect. Set up tech boundaries, get more sleep and unlock time and energy you didn’t know you were missing.

Rituals: Unplugging

Rituals: Unplugging - Episode 134 of The Slow Home Podcast

Last year an Australian study found that we spend more than 46 hours per week on a screen, and just 6 hours with family and friends over the same period. Another study revealed that Brits will spend over 3 years of their adult lives updating social media – only marginally less than the three years, two months they spend on holidays. Americans, meanwhile, spend more than 10 hours a day attached to a screen of some description – a full one hour more every day than was revealed in a similar study a year earlier.

All this to say – we spend a lot of time attached to a device of connection. Smartphones, tablets, laptops, desktops, video games… we’re constantly being beeped at, notified of or vibrated at and it’s taking its toll.

While much of our online life is necessary and part of the modern workplace, we also allow it to impose on our downtime, with many hours spent watching TV, scrolling social media and falling down endless internet rabbitholes. Not only does it stop us from doing other things with our time, but the blue light of smartphones and tablets also impacts our ability to go to sleep – and stay asleep – meaning we’re more tired and more wired than ever.

In today’s episode Ben and I look at a very simple daily ritual that can help you break the habit of constant connection. Learning to unplug regularly not only breaks the social media/procrastination loop, but it also turns our attention elsewhere – to the people nearby, the conversations, the trees, the light, the breeze, the feelings, the sensations. It can also help us sleep more soundly, wake up more refreshed and minimise the lost moments in the morning where we accidentally check every news website and email account before jumping in the shower.

We talk about the benefits of having a screen-free bedroom, as well as how you can actually harness technology to help you become more mindful and to schedule in pockets of disconnection throughout the day.

This week’s action is to set an alarm each evening for 30 minutes before bed time, and use it as a reminder to disconnect from the phone, the computer, the TV. Try to use this time to unwind from the day and prepare yourself for a good night’s rest, and simply see if it has an impact on your sleep after doing it for a week. It’s simple, I promise!

Hit me up on Instagram or Facebook and let us know how you go after a week of ritual unplugging. In the meantime, enjoy your week!

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How to take time off as a self-employed person

How to take time off as a self employed person - Episode 133 of The Slow Home Podcast

Since launching the podcast almost two years ago (time flies when you’re having fun, that’s for sure!) one of the things I’ve learnt to love the most are our hostful Q&A episodes. I used to face them with a little trepidation because I was afraid of not having a good enough answer. But what I failed to see was the opportunity to learn from your questions, rather than worry about getting the answers ‘right’.

Today is the first Q&A of the year and, as always, you’ve asked some incredibly insightful questions:

  • Do you find you are more sensitive to others people’s cluttered homes now you have simplified yourself? Any tips for dealing with clutter intolerance in other people’s homes and even our own homes at times?
  • As I search for my first job after college, I’m noticing most companies lack a work-life balance. Taking care of myself and living a slow life is important to me. Do you have any advice about maintaining a slow living value while searching for a job in a world that operates at a very high speed?
  • Does slow living apply to how you eat? Do you eat simple meals? Any tips?
  • I own my own business and your vacation sounded so relaxing. How do you just unplug or set those boundaries to spend time with family without thinking if someone needs something with your business?
  • I love the sound of your holiday in Japan, and my husband and kids would have an absolute ball. I’d love a lot of it too, but I’d end up spending most of it alone as I have adrenal fatigue. How would you approach this challenge? My ideal holiday right now would involve long, lazy days and plenty of rest, but the kids (7,10 & 11) would be bored silly. How do you think we could find adventurous and fun ways to spend time together that suit all of us?

We had so much fun answering these, and it gave us the chance to talk through topics we’ve not really discussed on the poggie before. So to everyone who submitted a question – thank you!

We couldn’t get through them all today so will keep answering your questions next month. If ever you do have a question for the hostful shows, feel free to post over on the Facebook page or in the comments here on the blog.

This week’s episode is sponsored by, well, you actually! For everyone who has ever contributed to our Patreon account, we just want to send you a big hug! It makes such a difference to us and helps us to cover costs such as media hosting and website fees. If you want to support the show financially you can head over to our Patreon account and either leave a one-off or regular contribution there. Thanks gang! 

In the meantime, have a lovely week!

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Keep Listening:

Support the Show:

You may have heard that we recently hit 1.5 million downloads of The Slow Home Podcast! Not only does that fact blow my mind, it’s also thanks to your lovely self and the community of people who listen to the show every week, send in your questions and offer your feedback. I’m so grateful you’re here and part of this, and for anyone who has supported the show in any way over the past year – thank you so much.

If you do love the show and would like to show your support by becoming a patron, head over here to make a small monthly donation (as little as $1 a month) and know that any amount makes a huge difference to us being able to cover costs.

Most importantly, thanks for being here!

Play #4

Play #4 - The Slow Home Experiment

I just want to start by assuring you that no podcaster became distraught as a result of this recording. There are no tears in this poggie. I repeat, there are no tears in this poggie. It’s OK. I’m OK. I am grateful for all the beautiful messages of love and support over the past week, and want you to know it made me feel so uplifted, and I’m in a good place now. I promise!

I can’t quite believe how quickly this year has gone, and that our daily play experiment is winding up. As you know, this has been an unexpectedly challenging experiment for me, and while Ben and I originally chose the theme of ‘play’ as a respite from last month’s decluttering work, this one has proven to be much more taxing in ways I hadn’t expected.

Admittedly, I have been feeling the pinch of some big deadlines, and getting sick mid-month certainly didn’t help matters, but as I discuss in this week’s episode, having the idea of playfulness in the back of my mind over the past few weeks has seen some really simple, beautiful changes in my daily actions.

Things like giving a funny reply to the kids when it would otherwise have been neutral, dancing around the kitchen, listening to music in the car and having a ready laugh have all helped in small but significant ways.

Truth be told, this is a funny episode and I do believe the end of year shenanigans are starting to take their toll on us (in a good way!)

Speaking of the end of year shenanigans though. Ben and I also talk about the final experiment of the year, and why we changed it at the last minute – given how overwhelmed we were feeling at the mere thought of another thing to do at what is one of the busiest times of the year.

So instead, we’re simply committing to making time for slow every day. These are some of the ideas we’re running with in the first few days of the experiment, starting December 1, and we’d love for you to join us:

  • 2 minutes of deep, slow breathing. This can be done in bed, at our desk, sitting on the back deck or while waiting for a coffee. Just taking a moment to reconnect with our breath, calm the racing thoughts and slow right down.
  • Phones off and out of sight while we’re eating alone. We have a no phones at the table rule when others are there, but both Ben and I tend to scroll through our phones if we’re eating by ourselves. So it’s time to just sit, enjoy the food we’re eating and let our thoughts simply be.
  • Make time to sit and just listen to a favourite song or piece of music. If we’re on the train or bus, it’s a matter of pressing play, closing our eyes and immersing ourselves in something beautiful for no other reason than to experience it fully.
  • Commit to more single-tasking every day. Even though this is related to being productive, the biggest benefit of single tasking is actually being productive while also being intentional. Focusing attention on just one thing and completing it is such a rewarding and rejuvenating thing to do and is perfect for this time of year where we can feel torn in too many opposing directions.

We’d love you to join us this month as we go against the grain and slow down in the holiday season. Feel free to use #slowhomeexperiment to share your play posts and your slow posts too.

Enjoy your week, my friends!

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Or you can listen to the show directly, simply by hitting the Play button above. Enjoy!

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Show Notes:

Keep Listening:

Support the Show:

You may have heard that we recently hit 1.3 million downloads of The Slow Home Podcast! Not only does that fact blow my mind, it’s also thanks to your lovely self and the community of people who listen to the show every week, send in your questions and offer your feedback. I’m so grateful you’re here and part of this, and for anyone who has supported the show in any way over the past year – thank you so much.

If you do love the show and would like to show your support by becoming a patron, head over here to make a small monthly donation (as little as $1 a month) and know that any amount makes a huge difference to us being able to cover costs.

Most importantly, thanks for being here!

Play #3 (AKA BANGARANG!)

"Oh there you are, Peter." This scene kills me every. single. time.
“Oh, there you are, Peter.”

 

On Friday night we watched Hook with the kids (my favourite childhood movie, alongside Aladdin and The Labyrinth). And while I was beyond delighted that they loved it as much as we did, I actually spent most of the film wiping copious amounts of tears off my cheeks. Turns out Robin Williams and Steven Spielberg (and, of course, J.M Barrie) had a lot to say about play, and what happens to us as adults when we simply forget what it means to view the world through a child’s eyes.

In the interests of transparency, this week has been a tough one. I’ve been sick and not a little bit tired and emotional, and truth be told I’m still not feeling very well. As a result, I find myself getting a little teary again this week.

This month’s experiment has taught me a great deal. About what’s important, what that looks like in everyday life, and why we need to pay attention to the silliness, the playfulness, the childlike wonder that we tend to lose as we grow up. Ironically, it’s also turned out to be one of the most challenging experiments we’ve ever done, when it was initially chosen as a light and easy reprieve after last month’s decluttering experiment.

In today’s pogpast we talk through some of this week’s realisations and lightbulb moments (and tearful moments too!) 

Biggest takeaway of the week though: Dance like Thud Butt.

via GIPHY

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Show Notes:

Keep Listening:

Support the Show:

You may have heard that we recently hit 1.3 million downloads of The Slow Home Podcast! Not only does that fact blow my mind, it’s also thanks to your lovely self and the community of people who listen to the show every week, send in your questions and offer your feedback. I’m so grateful you’re here and part of this, and for anyone who has supported the show in any way over the past year – thank you so much.

If you do love the show and would like to show your support by becoming a patron, head over here to make a small monthly donation (as little as $1 a month) and know that any amount makes a huge difference to us being able to cover costs.

Most importantly, thanks for being here!

Play #2

Play #2 - The Slow Home Experiment

This is the second full week of our Slow Home Experiment in play, and in today’s episode Ben and I talk about our progress, and the week that was.

To be perfectly honest I’ve been feeling a little insecure in my play attempts this past week. I’m not as playful as Ben (though I’m more likely to stop and wonder at little things and pay attention to tiny details in a child-like way) and I’ve found myself wondering if I’m doing it ‘right’.

We talk about the things we have been doing, including more play with the kids, choosing to laugh and joke more freely, listening to funny things instead of serious things, hunting for rainbows and throwing the ball around. But what I can’t really shake is the feeling that this is a job.

Which, really, is what habit change is about, isn’t it? Doing the thing over and over again, even when it feels like work, until it becomes part of our lives.

It’s interesting to get Ben’s take on it too, as someone who is definitely more playful, as well as the impact it’s been having on his week. He managed to surprise a stranger with his playfulness during the week (which went relatively well!) and, like me, he’s also switched his default position to Yes rather than No.

Regardless of how challenging it feels to me in the moment, I truly believe that anything that gets us to connect and be lighter, more joyful people is a good thing, and while I’m not taking to this month’s experiment as well as others, I can see how bringing playfulness to the front of my mind is having a really positive impact. Which probably means I’m very much in need of it!

How are you finding the play experiment? Are you a natural like Ben? Or finding it a challenge?

This is another experiment that is open to everyone, and I’m really excited to see the #slowhomeexperiment posts popping up on Instagram! It’s never too late to join in, and feel free to tag your social media posts with #slowhomeexperiment.

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Head over to iTunes to subscribe to the show and play the episode.

Or you can listen to the show directly, simply by hitting the Play button above. Enjoy!

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Show Notes:

Keep Listening:

Support the Show:

You may have heard that we recently hit 1.3 million downloads of The Slow Home Podcast! Not only does that fact blow my mind, it’s also thanks to your lovely self and the community of people who listen to the show every week, send in your questions and offer your feedback. I’m so grateful you’re here and part of this, and for anyone who has supported the show in any way over the past year – thank you so much.

If you do love the show and would like to show your support by becoming a patron, head over here to make a small monthly donation (as little as $1 a month) and know that any amount makes a huge difference to us being able to cover costs.

Most importantly, thanks for being here!