Random Acts of Kindness #1

Random Acts of Kindness #1 - The Slow Home Podcast

So we’re a few days in to this month’s Slow Home Experiment, and I just wanted to say how excited I am that so many of you have decided to join us! 

I am convinced of the power in small acts of kindness in our everyday, and after speaking with the inspiring and uplifting Jono Fisher a few weeks ago I knew this was an experiment I wanted to try. The fact that so many of you feel the same is so exciting to me – I think a better world lies on the other side of kindness and I love that we’re sending out ripples all over the world.

In today’s poggie Ben and I talk about how we’re feeling a few days in to this experiment, what’s been challenging, what’s been surprising, and what small acts of kindness we’ve undertaken over the first few days.

When we first announced this month’s experiment there were two questions that kept coming up, so we spend a little time today unpacking our thoughts on each of them.

Firstly, what constitutes an act of kindness? Can we be kind to ourselves? Our family? Our friends? Or does it need to be more expansive than that?

Initially I thought it needed to be a big, expansive act of kindness but so many of you had such great insights to share on the importance of kindness to ourselves, that you actually changed my mind. Kindness is kindness, and when we treat ourselves well we fill our cup in order to share the love further. Ben and I talk about this a little more in the episode, but I just wanted to thank you all for showing me the importance of kindness in all areas of life.

The second question related to money, and the cost of many popular random acts of kindness. The oft-quoted ideas of buying a coffee for the person behind you at the coffee shop, or buying flowers or a meal for someone – while lovely, thoughtful ideas – are out of the financial realm for most of us. So we spend some time working through a list of non-financial ideas that will hopefully encourage even more people to spread kindness this month.

Here is an incomplete list of acts of kindness that don’t cost a cent:

  • text a friend and tell them why you love them.
  • email someone you admire
  • bake a treat for someone
  • pick herbs or flowers and leave them on someone’s front door step
  • talk to a stranger
  • wish someone a good day – and really mean it
  • tell someone how much you appreciate the job they do
  • breakfast in bed
  • build a fort with the kids
  • take morning tea over to a friends house

There were also some gorgeous suggestions over on the Facebook page this week, including:

  • Ling: Being kind to myself if I haven’t been deliberately kind to anyone else today (rather than putting myself down – but definitely not using that as an excuse to not do it everyday)….
  • Krista: Offering more of yourself than you might generally do (playing legos 20 min longer, offering a back rub to that family member who loves them, making a meal you don’t like but that other person does).
  • Tams: I think for people feeling nervous about it, include Loving-kindness meditation in your challenge! Its a beautiful way to become comfortable with being loving towards everyone in your life, from the easy ones of being loving to those you adore, through friends, family, people you don’t know, and to the hardest, which I think in our culture, is being kind to ourselves.
  • Angel: Smile at the people you meet. sometimes a smile from a random stranger lifts your day. Sometimes things are so bleak, you can’t believe life still goes on, and a smile reminds you that there are still things that are good in the world. It costs nothing. and it’s good face exercise

Regardless of the ‘success’ or otherwise of this month’s experiment, it’s already having an impact on me as I rethink the importance of kindness, and also the impact of tiny (seemingly insignificant) acts every day that help us build a lens of kindness for ourselves through which we can then view the world. It’s a beautiful thing and I’m glad to be doing it with you all! 

This is another experiment that anyone can join in on, so please feel free to play along, and tag your social media posts with #slowhomeexperiment.

In the meantime, have a gorgeous week! Enjoy!

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Back to where it all began…

The Slow Home Podcast - Back to where it all began...

One of the things I am most passionate about in advocating for a slower way of living is the idea that there is no ‘right way’. There isn’t a perfect road map to simplicity or a step-by-step guidebook that will take you to the best version of your best life. It’s messy and real and sometimes frustrating, and it almost certainly involves a lot of questioning, evolution and iteration.

As we prepare for the 100th pogpast episode next week (100 episodes – I actually can’t quite believe we made it this far) we thought it would be fun to take a look back at the very beginning. Not for the awkwardness (although it IS awkward) and not for the laughs (although it IS cringingly funny) but so you can see how much things have changed over the past 18 months.

Not only does our day-to-day look very different, but more importantly, I’m much clearer on what it means to live a slower, intentional life, and learning to be far less rigid in what that actually means.

For a long time I felt guilt and pressure to be ‘doing’ slow living in a particular way, and this podcast has actually taught me that it can look a million different ways, none of them more right than the others. It’s far more important to pay attention to the small steps we’re making, and what’s right for us – right now.

Aside from that though, it really is mostly just fun to go back and listen to where it all began. Thanks so much to you for joining us, and here’s to more awkward conversations. Enjoy!

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Recently we hit 1 million downloads of The Slow Home Podcast! Not only does that fact blow my mind, it’s also thanks to your lovely self and the community of people who listen to the show every week, send in your questions and offer your feedback. I’m so grateful you’re here and part of this, and for anyone who has supported the show in any way over the past year – thank you.

If you do love the show and would like to show your support by becoming a patron, head over here to make a small monthly donation (as little as $1 a month) and know that any amount makes a huge difference to us being able to cover costs.

Most important of all, thanks for being here!

 

Screen-Free Bedroom #5

Screen-Free Bedroom #5 - The Slow Home Experiment

IT’S OFFICIAL. Screen-free bedrooms are the greatest.

August’s Slow Home Experiment has been one of the simplest and most effective changes we’ve made all year, and in today’s episode Ben and I talk about the challenges and benefits of going screen-free in the bedroom. We also talk through some of the reasons people didn’t or couldn’t join in, as well as some possible solutions for the most common of those.

What we’ve noticed in our own home is a marked increase in sleep quality, but also more conversations, intimacy, reading, relaxation and productivity – most of which I never thought would be impacted by a screen-free bedroom.

For anyone still on the fence about trying it, I’d really encourage you to run your own experiment for a week or two and see how going screen-free impacts your life. There is really nothing to lose and it’s proven to be one of the easiest ways to create some slow in our days without needing to commit big time or energy.

And while the screen-free bedroom is here to stay, it’s time to turn our attention to September’s experiment. And honestly, it’s one I’m feeling quite nervous about.

Inspired by my recent conversation with Jono Fisher, we’ve decided to try and commit one random act of kindness every day throughout September. And while on the face of it, this seems like a simple task, I’m feeling pretty anxious. Something about being vulnerable and not wanting to ever offend someone with an offer of help has me feeling very apprehensive. Which almost certainly means it’s going to be incredibly worthwhile!

Ben and I talk about potential acts of kindness we could try, as well as some of the options that won’t cost money every day. We’d love to hear from you too – are you going to join us? What ideas do you have for your random acts? What budget-friendly options do you have in mind?

This is another experiment that anyone can join in on, so please feel free to play along, and tag your social media posts with #slowhomeexperiment.

In the meantime, have a cracking week! Enjoy!

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Support the Show:

You may have heard that we recently hit 1 million downloads of The Slow Home Podcast! Not only does that fact blow my mind, it’s also thanks to your lovely self and the community of people who listen to the show every week, send in your questions and offer your feedback. I’m so grateful you’re here and part of this, and for anyone who has supported the show in any way over the past year – thank you so much.

If you do love the show and would like to show your support by becoming a patron, head over here to make a small monthly donation (as little as $1 a month) and know that any amount makes a huge difference to us being able to cover costs.

Most important of all, thanks for being here!

Create More, Consume Less with Margy Heuschele

Create More, Consume Less with Margy Heuschele - The Slow Home Podcast

One of my favourite parts of having these pogpast conversations every week is learning how people come to slow living. Where do they hear about it? Is it an intuitive thing they simply need to do, or are they specifically inspired to change by a book or a blog post or an event in their lives?

What I’ve discovered is there is no one way. There is no right way. There is no ideal path to a slower, simpler, more mindful life. There is your way, and there are small steps. There are no quick fixes or miracle cures. There are questions and answers. There is time and kindness and gentleness and honesty. There is courage and fear and letting go and pulling close.

In today’s episode I have the distinct pleasure of chatting with Margy Heuschele – a teacher-librarian from Toowoomba in Queensland, who has gradually shifted her life from one of stress and overwhelm and perfectionism and control, to one of slowness, contentment, simplicity and joy in the tiny moments.

I loved so many things about this conversation, not least Margy’s amazing book recommendations (which you can find below) and learning more about the Makerspace movement. But one of the things I particularly loved was the beautiful contentment Margy exudes and the way she describes the tiny, beautiful moments in her life as the turning point in living a slower, more mindful life. There wasn’t a huge traumatic experience or a momentous realisation that brought her to slow living, but rather taking the time for little, mundane moments of beauty in her every day.

We also talk about the impact simplifying had on her now-grown kids, why it’s so important to teach people (both the young and not-so-young) foundational skills such as sewing and gardening, and why she and her husband started a simple living organisation in their community.

This is a wonderful episode and I’m sure you’re going to love Margy’s story as much as I did.

Today’s show is sponsored by Ettitude. For 10% off your first order of ethically-made, environmentally-friendly, sustainable, bamboo lyocell bed linen, visit Ettitude and use the code: sleephealthy.

Enjoy!

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Recently we hit 1 million downloads of The Slow Home Podcast! Not only does that fact blow my mind, it’s also thanks to your lovely self and the community of people who listen to the show every week, send in your questions and offer your feedback. I’m so grateful you’re here and part of this, and for anyone who has supported the show in any way over the past year – thank you.

If you do love the show and would like to show your support by becoming a patron, head over here to make a small monthly donation (as little as $1 a month) and know that any amount makes a huge difference to us being able to cover costs.

Most important of all, thanks for being here!

Screen-Free Bedroom #4 – The Slow Home Experiment

Screen-Free Bedroom #4 - The Slow Home Experiment

We’re rolling in to week four of this month’s screen-free bedroom experiment and rather than continue to tell everyone just how amazing and life-changing it is (which it is) Ben and I talk more about why it’s making such an impact on our home.

This week I discovered that ‘blue light’ is present in pretty much every modern light – not just our screens – and that researchers think it’s not just our devices impacting sleep, but all household lights. On a new episode of Low Tox Life, Alexx Stuart explores sleep hacking and how one man lived without artificial light for 6 weeks, and the results have me almost convinced I need to buy a pair of blue blocking glasses (I didn’t even realise they were a thing!) and remove the lightbulb from our fridge…

There are a whole range of solutions to start minimising our light exposure at night, but this month is really just about removing the tech from our bedrooms, and that in itself is having such a massive impact. Like we mentioned in last week’s episode, more conversations, more peace and more presence, and I haven’t missed the tech once.

We also talk about the upcoming September experiment and what you can do to get involved, as well as a free program Cybele and I are running next month.

I honestly cannot recommend this experiment enough, and would love it if you shared your own experience with going screen-free. Feel free to play along, and tag your social media posts with #slowhomeexperiment.

*Also, I read a recent one-star review of our show (it’s OK – not everyone thinks we’re awesome) that complained about the inside jokes Ben and I share on the show. Sorry to say, this episode has plenty, so enjoy! 

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You may have heard that we recently hit 1 million downloads of The Slow Home Podcast! Not only does that fact blow my mind, it’s also thanks to your lovely self and the community of people who listen to the show every week, send in your questions and offer your feedback. I’m so grateful you’re here and part of this, and for anyone who has supported the show in any way over the past year – thank you so much.

If you do love the show and would like to show your support by becoming a patron, head over here to make a small monthly donation (as little as $1 a month) and know that any amount makes a huge difference to us being able to cover costs.

Most important of all, thanks for being here!