Monthly Archives: March 2013

Walking the Walk.

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Sometimes, you just have to let it go.

The guilt, the shoulds, the expectations, the have-tos.

When things are too hectic, too pressured, too tense and you’ve stopped enjoying your days, then it’s time to let something go. It’s time to tilt. Work out where the heaviness is. Assess what part of your world can carry on without you for a little while. Go find your enjoyment again.

Recently I’ve allowed myself to tilt towards:

  • sleeping more and writing less
  • exercising more and chastising myself less
  • reading more and watching less TV
  • talking to Ben more and opening the iPad less

But it’s an ever-changing, fluid way of living. Ironically, to simplify my days often proves quite complex.

Here at home, we’ve all been sick over the past three weeks, so resting and sleeping more is important. I’m tilting towards recovering and helping the kids. But giving myself that extra time to sleep and care means I am writing less. And writing less makes me edgy. So today I’m tilting away from housework and towards writing.

The key is that I no longer think I can do it all. 

In fact, I know I can’t. And I know you can’t. And I’m sorry if that pisses you off like it used to piss me off. But accepting it is a good move.

Instead of looking at it as a limitation on yourself, make it a freedom. You become barrierless once you realise that it’s your choices that define your actions, and your actions that define you.

How could you benefit from tilting right now?

 

PS. The March 2013 in 2013 post will be up during the week. I may be tilting, but I haven’t forgotten. x

Lessons from the Nomadic Lifestyle

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This is a post from guest contributor Bethany Rosselit of My Journey to Ithaca. Enjoy, and learn more about her fascinating life at the bottom of the post.

 

My name is Bethany, and I practice minimalism. But I am not a minimalist. I am a sailor.

Every summer, along with my husband, daughter, and cat, I make my home aboard a 29-foot sloop. Last year, we lived aboard for 91 days, with no home port and no destination. We simply took in the sights, forged friendships, and followed the wind.

Our “home” contained less than 200 square feet of living space. We cooked with propane, on a camp stove, often went without refrigeration, drank lake water on more than one occasion (we did have the added benefit of being on the Great Lakes, so it was fresh water), weathered our fair share of storms, bathed in the lake when public showers weren’t available, and shared one tiny, “hanging locker” for a closet.

And it was perfect. We could have stayed there 91 more days.

When you embark on an adventure with someone – or many someones – the way you see society, daily life, the world, and each other will forever be changed. Sailing, and living nomadically, taught us many lessons that we brought with us when we returned to our life on land for the school year. And those lessons are what I would like to share with you today:

1. Living in limited space, with limited possessions, limits the amount of time you spend managing your possessions. “Housework,” on the boat consisted of a 5-minute clean-up, first thing in the morning. We had time to do what we wanted to do.

2. Not walled in by possessions, you become a part of the community. Things we normally did at home, we now needed to do in town. We visited the library. We went to the Laundromat. Even our home, when we were in a slip, was in a public venue. As we ate our meals, played with our daughter, or grilled, we met runners, salespeople, and other travelers, who were happy to hear our story and share theirs.

3. Children can have more fun in a great town, without toys. My daughter (known as Jelly Bean) had much more fun jumping off the side of the boat (with a life jacket and a line!), playing with the other kids at the park, and simply interacting with passers-by, than she ever has had in her well-stocked playroom. Interaction, new sights, and family time can replace a huge toy collection, easily.

4. Without all the distractions, you have real conversations. We haven’t had a television for 9 years (or so – I don’t remember!), but my husband and I still find ways to be distracted from each other at home. He’ll play a video game or surf the Internet; I’ll read an e-book or write a blog post. On the boat, we have much LESS of that. We interact with each other, and discuss our hopes and dreams in ways we never do at home.

5. Problem solving together helps you to grow closer. You will have problems. And you will have to work together to solve them. But facing a seemingly impossible task together will create a bond. Our first summer, we worked together to get our boat off of the rocks, then to motor it, six hours, to a safe port while it was taking on water. Last summer, we dealt with engine failure while motoring into unbelievably heavy winds. Being able to toast each other and say “we made it!” will bring you closer to each other.

6. Being out of your “safety zone,” you learn to weather unpredictability. When living nomadically, you’re out of that house in the suburbs. You’re out of daily life, with its script and predictability. Random things can happen. They can be either great of horrible, but you learn to deal with them. This is a tremendous lesson, because the predictability of daily life is only an illusion anyway.

7. There is freedom in not having a destination. We’re a goal and end oriented society. We like to talk about “where we’re going.” And, last summer, it kind of bothered people that we didn’t have that “where.” We weren’t going anywhere – we were sailing! When you enjoy the process – the journey – and take in all that it has to offer, you gain something much more valuable than any destination.

You don’t need to live aboard for 91 days to experience the joy of a nomadic lifestyle. Just going on a weeklong – or weekend-mini-adventure could teach you a great deal. But, beware – one adventure almost always leads to another, even greater adventure.

 

About Bethany Rosselit:
Bethany writes about her family, adventures and worldview at MY Journey to Ithaca. SHe is mindful, funny, intentional, inspirational and a fabulous storyteller. Read more about her adventures in sailing and minimalism here.