Monthly Archives: July 2015

Eric Zimmer on choosing which wolf to feed – SHP016

Which wolf will you feed? with Eric Zimmer - Slow Home Podcast Episode 16

In today’s episode I sat down to talk with Eric Zimmer, the creator of The One You Feed – one of my favourite podcasts.

Eric was such a delightful and insightful person to talk to, and while Ben gives me grief for saying this too often, I genuinely could have sat and chatted with him for hours.

We talk about his podcast and the stunning parable that gives the show its name, his unexpected thoughts on social media and its role in our dissatisfaction, comparison and perfectionism, as well as how to create and maintain habits in the best and easiest possible way.

Once you’ve listened to our conversation, I’d urge you to go check out The One You Feed in iTunes – you won’t regret it!

In the meantime though, enjoy the show.

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Tell your story, then live it.

Tell your story, then live it. (via Slow Your Home)

One of my favourite things to do on holiday is visit bookshops. I almost always buy a new book while away and have purchased countless Moleskins (unlined – all the better to doodle in!) before boarding a plane.

Last Christmas, while on holiday in Banff, I bought myself two game-changers. One was Amy Poehler’s ‘Yes, Please’ and the other was a squat little book called ‘642 Tiny Things to Write About’.

One of the first Tiny Things was to write the opening sentence of my own obituary.

It sounds a little macabre, a little morose, but it was truly one of the most inspiring and instructive things I’ve done.

Being a chronic over-writer, I couldn’t keep the exercise to just one sentence. Instead, I wrote four that summed up what I want to see, and more importantly, what I want others to see, when looking back.

Those four sentences have already had a huge impact on my life. They’ve made me reframe what is important, what is worth risking and what is central to my core. They’ve clarified my goals, my dreams and what I hope to see as my legacy. They’ve helped me hone in on what is important for me, but even moreso, for my family.

If we take a moment to imagine ourselves standing at the end of life, looking back at the journey we’ve taken, we get the beautiful benefit of hindsight and the incredible opportunity to act upon it. That never happens.

So often we lament, “Hindsight is 20/20,” and accept, rightly so, that we simply don’t know what we don’t know. And while we still can’t know what the future holds for us, we can imagine – in brilliant detail, no less – what we hope to see as we look back.

Having that benefit of hindsight and the opportunity to act upon it is like rewriting a history that hasn’t happened yet. And it gets to be the history you want.

I’m not talking about manifesting yourself a life of wealth, power and fame. But the things that matter – family, friends, love, compassion – can exist regardless of the circumstances of the life you live. And I’d wager that these feature heavily when looking back at a life fully lived.

Not the car we drove. Or the school we went to. Or the brand of jeans we bought.

Adventure. Willingness to try. Joy. Spirit. Compassion. Heart. Sense of humour. Fair-mindedness. Ambition. Tenacity. Unconditional love. 

Take a moment to ask yourself: what will I see when I look back?

And for what it’s worth, I hope my obituary will be delivered by my two children and given to a room full of friends and family. I hope the service is followed by one heck of a shindig in my honour, and I hope my remains are buried and allowed to grow into something beautiful, like a tree.

“Quick to laugh, creative, compassionate, with a wicked sense of humour, Mum was never without a new plan or adventure on the horizon. She was spontaneous, loyal, introspective and a little moody, and she made one hell of an Old Fashioned. Mum, we will miss you always. Thank you for our roots, but thank you even more for our wings.”

This post originally appeared on The Art of Simple.

When it’s not all about you – SHP015

The Slow Home Podcast #15 - Q&A Episode Before I jump into today’s episode, a quick note. I’m taking a couple of weeks off the internet, starting this weekend. I’ve got posts and podcast episodes scheduled already (there’s two excellent interviews coming your way!) but I won’t be answering emails or replying to comments. Part of going slow is understanding the importance of disconnecting regularly and not forgetting a very important fact: the world will continue to turn with or without my presence on Twitter. Thank you so much for being here, and I hope your next two weeks are delightful! Also, don’t forget that tickets are now on sale for our Sydney Slow Living Workshop – get the details and grab yours here.

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The first Thursday of the month means one thing: a hostful episode of the podcast! Ben and I have a ridiculous amount of fun recording these host-only episodes and I really love the opportunity to answer listener questions in a relaxed, non-posturing kind of way. We inadvertently themed today’s three questions around other people. Or more specifically, how to move towards slow and simple while living with and taking into consideration the needs and desires of other people. The questions I try to answer today are thought-provoking and also quite common:
    • How can I create a slower home with less “stuff” when my spouse isn’t on the same wavelength?
    • How can I simplify large amounts emotionally-charged clutter, like kids artworks?
  • How do I shift my thinking about “stuff” and what constitutes clutter as my children grow and develop their own interests and tastes?
I do my best to answer them in a practical and helpful way, and hopefully it’s going to offer the encouragement needed to work out what’s best for you. One really important part of slow living is acknowledging that everyone’s path is different – what works for one person may not work for another. For this reason I’m always hesitant to offer specific advice, but would rather ask questions that get you thinking about what works best for you. Hopefully today’s episode will help do that.

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