Monthly Archives: September 2016

Random Acts of Kindness #2

Random Acts of Kindness #2 - The Slow Home Experiment

When we first chose Random Acts of Kindness for our September experiment, I knew it would make an impact on the way we viewed the world. What I didn’t expect was the huge outpouring of gratitude and support from all of you!

I’ve received so many emails, messages, Facebook comments and tweets about this month’s experiment and without exception they’ve all been incredibly positive. I think it’s partly the reminder that we can, in fact, choose kindness at any given moment, and also the feeling of connection we experience when we realise we’re part of something that’s making an impact around the world.

We’re not talking about big, audacious gifts or flashy examples of financial generosity (although they’re amazing too). What we’re talking about is showing kindness where we might not have previously – opening a door, smiling at a stranger, letting someone know you’re thinking about them or that you can even see them, acting on the impulse to be kind where we otherwise might not have – and it is an incredible, and slightly unnerving shift to make.

Today Ben and I talk about our experiences to date, and I dig a little more in to why I’ve felt fearful about truly random acts of kindness. We also talk about the things we’ve done over the past couple of weeks, the responses we’ve gotten from others, as well as how it’s made us feel.

I must admit, I’m a little conflicted at the idea of sharing these random acts, essentially because I worry that it will sound like a list of reasons I think I’m a good person, when really, this has very little to do with me at all. But I do think it’s helpful to hear what others are doing to spread kindness around, so hopefully there are some ideas in today’s poggie that will help!

Also: thank you all so much for your kind words after last week’s 100th Poggie Extravaganza! We had lots of fun recording that one (sorry about the lack of video!) even if we did record it three times. You guys are legitimately the best people in the world.

Enjoy today’s pogpast!

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100th Episode Celebration and AMA

AMA: Episode 100 of The Slow Home Podcast

About 18 months ago I mentioned to Ben I’d be keen to start a podcast that talked about slow living. Maybe it would just be me, maybe it would feature interviews, maybe it would be interesting to a few people. So I made some recordings, interviewed some very kind people, Ben edited them together and we were on our way.

Fast forward to now, and never in a million years would I have imagined the ways our little podcast could have changed our lives. Not only does life look different because we’re now self-employed, but it’s slower and kinder and more intentional all-round. We’ve made massive shifts in how we live (yoga, meditation, mindful living, more sleep, less time on screens, more family time, more adventure, more kindness, less stuff, less stress, less clutter) and continue to take small steps every day towards a life closely aligned with our Why.

All from saying yes to an off the cuff, out of the blue idea to start a podcast.

Before we jump in to today’s extra special hosts-only century celebration spectacular, I just wanted to say thank you to you for being here. Thank you for listening and engaging and trying things along side us. Thank you for your questions and your guest suggestions. Thank you for the inside jokes and the beautiful emails I get every day. Thank you for accepting our weirdness and being OK (for the most part) with the slow way we speak and the silly ways we banter. It’s an absolute privilege to share a little slice of your week, and I’m insanely thankful for you.

With that in mind, today’s episode is a really fun one. We opened up an AMA (ask me anything) on Facebook last week and got some cracking good questions. Today we talk about TV and books, the things we miss about pre-slow life (Ben has a surprising answer to this one and it’s really got me thinking) and where we would spend 24 child-free hours anywhere in the world. We also share some of our favourite music, areas of life that challenge us to live slow and the utterly boring story of how Ben and I met.

It’s a celebration of the past 100 episodes, peppered with lots of chat about slowing down – including a particular issue that’s been sitting not quite right with me for months, related to the difference between having a fast-paced job and living a fast-paced life. I feel like there might be a full episode in there somewhere…

In the meantime though, enjoy this extra special 100th episode of the poggie! Much love. xx

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Random Acts of Kindness #1

Random Acts of Kindness #1 - The Slow Home Podcast

So we’re a few days in to this month’s Slow Home Experiment, and I just wanted to say how excited I am that so many of you have decided to join us! 

I am convinced of the power in small acts of kindness in our everyday, and after speaking with the inspiring and uplifting Jono Fisher a few weeks ago I knew this was an experiment I wanted to try. The fact that so many of you feel the same is so exciting to me – I think a better world lies on the other side of kindness and I love that we’re sending out ripples all over the world.

In today’s poggie Ben and I talk about how we’re feeling a few days in to this experiment, what’s been challenging, what’s been surprising, and what small acts of kindness we’ve undertaken over the first few days.

When we first announced this month’s experiment there were two questions that kept coming up, so we spend a little time today unpacking our thoughts on each of them.

Firstly, what constitutes an act of kindness? Can we be kind to ourselves? Our family? Our friends? Or does it need to be more expansive than that?

Initially I thought it needed to be a big, expansive act of kindness but so many of you had such great insights to share on the importance of kindness to ourselves, that you actually changed my mind. Kindness is kindness, and when we treat ourselves well we fill our cup in order to share the love further. Ben and I talk about this a little more in the episode, but I just wanted to thank you all for showing me the importance of kindness in all areas of life.

The second question related to money, and the cost of many popular random acts of kindness. The oft-quoted ideas of buying a coffee for the person behind you at the coffee shop, or buying flowers or a meal for someone – while lovely, thoughtful ideas – are out of the financial realm for most of us. So we spend some time working through a list of non-financial ideas that will hopefully encourage even more people to spread kindness this month.

Here is an incomplete list of acts of kindness that don’t cost a cent:

    • text a friend and tell them why you love them.
    • email someone you admire
    • bake a treat for someone
    • pick herbs or flowers and leave them on someone’s front door step
    • talk to a stranger
    • wish someone a good day – and really mean it
    • tell someone how much you appreciate the job they do
    • breakfast in bed
    • build a fort with the kids
  • take morning tea over to a friends house

There were also some gorgeous suggestions over on the Facebook page this week, including:

    • Ling: Being kind to myself if I haven’t been deliberately kind to anyone else today (rather than putting myself down – but definitely not using that as an excuse to not do it everyday)….
    • Krista: Offering more of yourself than you might generally do (playing legos 20 min longer, offering a back rub to that family member who loves them, making a meal you don’t like but that other person does).
    • Tams: I think for people feeling nervous about it, include Loving-kindness meditation in your challenge! Its a beautiful way to become comfortable with being loving towards everyone in your life, from the easy ones of being loving to those you adore, through friends, family, people you don’t know, and to the hardest, which I think in our culture, is being kind to ourselves.
  • Angel: Smile at the people you meet. sometimes a smile from a random stranger lifts your day. Sometimes things are so bleak, you can’t believe life still goes on, and a smile reminds you that there are still things that are good in the world. It costs nothing. and it’s good face exercise

Regardless of the ‘success’ or otherwise of this month’s experiment, it’s already having an impact on me as I rethink the importance of kindness, and also the impact of tiny (seemingly insignificant) acts every day that help us build a lens of kindness for ourselves through which we can then view the world. It’s a beautiful thing and I’m glad to be doing it with you all! 

This is another experiment that anyone can join in on, so please feel free to play along, and tag your social media posts with #slowhomeexperiment.

In the meantime, have a gorgeous week! Enjoy!

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Back to where it all began…

The Slow Home Podcast - Back to where it all began...

One of the things I am most passionate about in advocating for a slower way of living is the idea that there is no ‘right way’. There isn’t a perfect road map to simplicity or a step-by-step guidebook that will take you to the best version of your best life. It’s messy and real and sometimes frustrating, and it almost certainly involves a lot of questioning, evolution and iteration.

As we prepare for the 100th pogpast episode next week (100 episodes – I actually can’t quite believe we made it this far) we thought it would be fun to take a look back at the very beginning. Not for the awkwardness (although it IS awkward) and not for the laughs (although it IS cringingly funny) but so you can see how much things have changed over the past 18 months.

Not only does our day-to-day look very different, but more importantly, I’m much clearer on what it means to live a slower, intentional life, and learning to be far less rigid in what that actually means.

For a long time I felt guilt and pressure to be ‘doing’ slow living in a particular way, and this podcast has actually taught me that it can look a million different ways, none of them more right than the others. It’s far more important to pay attention to the small steps we’re making, and what’s right for us – right now.

Aside from that though, it really is mostly just fun to go back and listen to where it all began. Thanks so much to you for joining us, and here’s to more awkward conversations. Enjoy!

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