The Questions That Hold Us Back

You have to go through what you can't get around.
{via JFM at The Minimalists}


In my darkest days, before I got the help I needed for my post-natal depression, I was living in complete and utter fear. I knew there was something very wrong. I knew I needed help, but I was terrified of saying it out loud.

There were questions holding me back:

  • What if people judge me?
  • What if I need to go on medication?
  • What if they make me stay in a psychiatric hospital?
  • What if they tell me I’m unfit to care for our kids?
  • What if Sparky doesn’t love me anymore?

It was too much. Living in fear was preferable to facing the unknown.


But by the grace of God, somewhere, I found the strength to whisper…

“Help me.”

And that was the first step.


Looking back, I can see that all I needed to worry about was that first step. To look at my feet and shuffle one foot forward. Once I had done that, I was on my way.

Then, and only then, could I concern myself with taking the second step.

After that, I could think about the third.


The decision to live a simple life started out in a similar way. I was filled with fear, anxiety and doubt.

There were questions holding me back:

  • What if I offend people by giving away what they’ve given us?
  • What if I fail?
  • What if I’m not strong enough to finish what I start?
  • How do I find the time to simplify, when I’m so busy already?
  • What if my friends think I’m weird?
  • What will my family say?
  • What if my husband doesn’t want to do this?
  • What if people think we’re depriving our kids by not giving them every thing they want?


Your journey to live a simpler life is the same. Hopefully without the medication and therapy.

I know so many of you are terrified, you don’t know where to begin, you are worried you will offend those you love, or face ridicule or opposition. I know these things because you tell me.

Every day I receive emails from beautiful readers like you, telling me their stories. Sharing their fears. Asking for help.

These people are taking the first step.

Today I’m asking you to do the same. In the comments below, tell me what your fear is. Share your story. Ask for help

Take that first step.


Let us know the questions that are holding you back.



12 Responses to The Questions That Hold Us Back

  1. Good morning, Brooke – I just wanted to stop by and tell you that you’re wonderful, and that what you write makes a difference xx

  2. I’m finally coming to the end of my studies (for now) and I’ll be stepping out into paid work for the first time.. I’m afraid of explaining my failed first attempt at uni study. I’m afraid of explaining the years I spent at home with my kids “doing nothing”. I’m afraid I won’t get hired because I’ve got nothing to put on my resume. I’m afraid I won’t finish the rest of my course to the standard that I expect of myself..
    I’m afraid of missing my kids once I do start work.. I’m afraid I won’t like the job.. and on and on

  3. I’m afraid losing myself again. I’m pregnant with my thirdcchild and have come off my medication. I’m 9 weeks pregnant and I’ve lost all motivation, I’m tired and I’m scared. I’ve put on unnecessary weight and I feel like shit. I’m excited to be having another baby but I just don’t want to through the bankruptcy, husband havIng an affair and the emotional roller coaster I went through with my last bulb…….

  4. I have a man who has quite a negative outlook on life. He complains constantly about things like the unreliability of public transport, inconsiderate people who don’t line up properly, who leave bags in the aisle etc., incompetent project managers at work, neighbours’ noise and lights, drivers cutting us off in traffic, not indicating etc, hopefully you get the idea. That’s on a mostly daily basis. Add to that the general disappointment with society, politicians and the state of the world. Some of these things bother me, too but I don’t feel the need to go on about them unless I plan to do something about it.

    I’ve been with him for almost 10 years now and I need to somehow tell him that I’m sick of living in a sea of negativity. I’m waiting until I finish uni in November to tell him that I can’t put up with this anymore. I’m reading Difficult Conversations and Nice Girls Just Don’t Get It to find the right words to say this. I think I am mostly scared that he won’t find this helpful. But I’ll have to say it before all the love I have for him turns into resentment.

  5. Bit slow joining here, but better late than never I suppose. I don’t know where to start, I’m afraid of so many things, but most of all I’m afraid of allowing myself to be happy, closely followed by change
    cheers Kate

  6. I’m trapped in my own room trying to delcutter, walk out of past, struggling with present work & exercise. It’s annoying sometimes & happy sometimes.

  7. Hi Brooke!

    As a beginner in simplifying I struggle with some of the questions you mentioned. If you have a little time, would you please share what you think about these questions now? How did you manage not to offend people? I do worry about hurting the feelings of my family and friends when I gave away things they gave me :( Not to mention my husband’s reaction…

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