Regardless of how you choose to live your life, you will discover that some people think you’re wrong. They won’t like you. They may disregard your choices. They may think less of you.
Writer? Get a real job.
Fashionista? You’re shallow.
Minimalist? You’re smug.
None of this has anything to do with you.
And accepting this truth – that you cannot ever come close to pleasing everyone – will actually release you of the weight of caring so damn much.
Because the fact is, we are all different. Different upbringings, ideals, values, likes, dislikes and prejudices. It’s called being part of the human race.
So just let go of trying to be everything to everyone. Instead, focus on the people you care about and decide how you can be right for them.
Ask yourself how you can be there for them. How can you support them? Do things that make a difference in their life?
In his incredible book, On Writing, Steven King says:
“You can’t please all the readers all of the time; you can’t please even some of the readers all of the time, but you really ought to try to please at least some of the readers some of the time.”
Realising you can’t please everyone all the time is a wonderful lesson to learn. But on the flip-side, no-one likes a jerk.
Be considerate. Be mindful. Be generous. Be thoughtful. Be open to change. Be open to learning and growing and finding your path. But be you.
Respectfully, be you.